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September 17th, 2009

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International Schools: A Refuge for Children Abroad

A girl sits in the middle of a living room crying because she has no one to play with.  A young boy plays alone because he can not understand the other kids in the park.  A teen-ager is unhappy with her meal because she could not read the menu.  Adolescence can be a difficult time, and experiences such as these can add to the already stressful lives of children living abroad.

Parents are not the only ones who feel the pressures of relocating. Children often times have the same stresses in addition to their own concerns and dilemmas. Adolescents often feel doubly foreign when attempting to adjust to life abroad. Adolescence is the time when they are most likely to question authority. American culture teaches young girls to be individualistic and independent. Although resisting authority is tolerated in places like the United States, many cultures, such as in Western Europe and Arab nations, fiercely discourage this defiance. A young girl might want to start exploring her individual identity or her sexuality by wearing clothing which, in places like the Middle East, might be highly inappropriate.

Often parents are so overwhelmed by their own anxieties about moving abroad, they forget to consider the special circumstances of their children. Parents might assume that the whole family is dealing with the same issues. The truth is that children abroad are in a world of their own. They are different in more ways than one. The differences can be in appearance, personality, interests, etc. However, children should know and parents should remind them that being different is not all bad. Most importantly, they should know that their differences will help develop their strengths and recognize that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. International schools will be that light.

In each region of the world, international schools promote differences. For example, Western Europe offers The American School of Paris. Kindergarteners to first-year university students help create a salad bowl of cultures.  The international school encourages the idea of language diversity and asks students to introduce their cultures at fairs, special events, and cultural courses.  Developing adolescents can then learn how to form a global view and perspective, which will allow for cultural diversity and tolerance.

Southeast Asia offers the American School of Borneo which also feeds on the highly diverse cultural surroundings. School programming emphasizes nature, respect for Earth’s creations, and an under standing of life in all forms. Though named an American school, it is truly the contrary. The teachers are mostly American, but not the students. Australian, Japanese, European, and American children make up an environment that creates a body of students that incorporate not only their own culture but the skills to alter and adapt to new ones.

Often the child’s experience in international schools makes them the expert in their family on how to survive abroad. They are more proficient in the language and culture. Their status as “different” actually becomes the light that guides their whole family through their new lives abroad.

It is important to realize that the needs of these “forgotten” expats must be met in order for the family to live successfully abroad. The international schools as well as cross cultural training can help ease the transition and emphasize the positive aspects of their sojourn.

 - Roy Ferrill and Nadia Kamar

Children Abroad: Suggested Reading

“Footsteps Around the World: Relocation Tips for Teens” by Beverly D. children abroadRoman, is a useful guide and workbook for youth who want to be proactive during their transition abroad. The author allows teens to take certain aspects of the move into their own hands by providing relocation checklists and timetables, as well as activities that focus on the emotional aspect of relocating. This book is an easy and enjoyable read due to the creative use of icons, textboxes and multiple lists of useful tips. Topics covered include visualizing a successful move, making new friends while remembering the old, learning customs and manners of the host country, and repatriation. Also provided is a list of teen appropriate websites. “Footsteps Around the World” is a must read for youths because it empowers them during the relocation process.

- Jennifer Corley

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August 10th, 2009

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Talking Politics, British Style

So closely tied in history and philosophy, so interwoven culturally, and of course, “divided by a common language” (to borrow from George Bernard Shaw), one can too quickly overlook the differences between the UK and the USA. This runs in spades when it comes to politics. Differences in the nature of government and in how people talk about politics make it important that you prepare yourself for a stay in the United Kingdom by appreciating some of the essential contrasts.england

England, And All That

Politics begins with how you identify yourself: who are you, or to what community do you belong? U.S. Americans think of themselves first and foremost as citizens of the United States, and secondarily as a resident of a state (say, a Californian). However, in the UK, the English, Scots, Welsh, and Irish (Northern Ireland) are first members of their nation, while the “United Kingdom” and “Britain” are artificial constructions that do not necessarily tug at their hearts. So please, avoid automatically calling anyone “English” take the time to find out, and you will begin to see Britain’s patchwork quilt of peoples.

The sensitivities are particularly keen because all roads lead to London. Britain does not have the United States’ “federalism”in which states have their own sphere of influence. Prime Minister Tony Blair, the leader of the majority party in the House of Commons, has “devolved” some control to a Scottish parliament and a Welsh assembly, but Parliament still holds the strings. Indeed, British government is fundamentally unlike the U.S. government in another way: the lack of a single written constitution laying out the structure of government and enumerating the rights of the people. Ultimately, nearly all power resides in Parliament, and even then mostly in the House of Commons, the only elected chamber. The newly recognized European Convention on Human Rights has begun to change things, but even now courts and rights are less important than the self restraint of the government often enforced by popular vigilance and protest.

Passions in Conversation

Indeed, attention to politics and current events is relatively high in Britain, making the issues of the day excellent fodder for conversation. However, people in Britain and the U.S. often approach political issues from different starting points While you may be naturally cautious if you were talking in, say, the Middle East or East Asia, many people let down their guard in Britain and many relationships have been damaged as a result. Here are a few hot topics to handle carefully or avoid altogether: Religion- Across much of Europe you’ll find national churches foster relationships between church and state.  Britain has government-funded Roman Catholic and Church of England schools. In contrast, church observance today is a mere fraction of attendance in the United States. Overall, Britons are very cool to overt discussion of their religious beliefs. It is a good idea to leave religion to conversations with good friends or let others raise the subject first. Northern Ireland- Part of the hesitance to raise religious questions stems from a history of repression, exemplified by the continuing struggles between Protestants and Catholics in Northern Ireland. Despite much cause for hope in the past decade, feelings run deep. Tread carefully. The National Health Service (NHS)- For millions of people, the nationalized system of medicine is a source of pride. Every health care system has its flaws, but many view the promise of universal health care as a moral issue. Even though private health insurance is increasingly common and acceptable for many people, others believe they have an obligation to support the NHS.

The Spirit of the Age

Despite the differences, there remains a special relationship between the USA and Britain that goes beyond formal relationships and alliances. The two countries have often traveled the same road. In recent decades, Ronald Reagan and Margaret Thatcher simultaneously articulated bold agendas of deregulation on the domestic front and anti Communism on the international stage. Bill Clinton and Tony Blair arrived with youthful energy and hopes of crafting a “Third Way” between traditional welfare statism and laissez-faire libertarianism. Then, perhaps surprisingly, Blair found a shared vision for democracy with George W. Bush. This shared history is a bridge and passport into a wonderful country with so much richness to offer, so watch carefully for the differences, so the bridge remains open.

-Patrick Schmidt for CAI

 

Suggested Reading:

Living in London: A Practical Guide

The book “Living in London,” written by The Junior League of London, is an effective and very user-friendly guide that covers basic information as well as the culture of this great city.

This book is a resourceful guide that contains personal recommendations and advice from the writers, who are actually volunteers who have compiled all of their experiences and knowledge about the city of London. Information is readily available on everything including housing, the banking system, transportation, the school system, shopping, various organizations to join, and popular events in London. Not only does this guide mention numerous useful stores, shops, and services for everyday life, but it also lists the addresses and phone numbers in an organized manner. “Living in London” also touches on even the smallest details, such as how to operate the light switches. Such detailed descriptions can make an expatriate feel right at home.

This pragmatic guide has easy-to-read conversion charts for everything from the monetary system to converting shoe sizes, which can help anyone learn the differences and make life easier. There is also a list of recommended readings that will assist anyone with their stay in London.

Overall, this guide can make anyone feel that they are not making this transition alone and can make either an expatriate or a tourist feel right at home in a short amount of time.

-Jennifer Newman